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It’s a Love Story

I am getting married on Saturday, May 30, 2015 to the wonderful man in the photograph above.

Matt and I met at a conference (Web of Change) in September 2013. I was one of a few fundraisers at a conference for political organizers. To say that I was out of my element is probably a bit of an understatement. But I learned so much, had some of the most interesting conversations of my career, and started rethinking how I thought about fundraising. But it wasn’t until I was in the airport in Austin, TX getting ready to head back to California that I talked to Matt.

As it turned out, Matt and I grew up in towns next door to each other in Northern California. Later we discovered all of our other similarities like our love for critical theory, feminism, and board games.

At the time Matt was living in San Francisco and I was nomadic, though mostly based in Vancouver. Soon after Web of Change, I headed down to San Francisco to visit one of my college friends. That weekend turned out to be amazing. I met Claire, Mazarine, and Shanon for the first time. I also had brunch with Matt, and what turned out to be an all-day date. After brunch we spent the day in Dolores Park talking. We talked for hours, just sitting out in the sunshine together and taking in the views of the city.

Everything has changed since that day in San Francisco.

Matt moved to Vancouver in July 2014, and we got engaged in February 2015.

I learned a lot about storytelling when we got engaged a few months ago. Matt and I decided that we would propose to each other. We planned a whole day of ritual and celebration together.

For many months before Matt moved, we wrote each long emails and lots of snail mail. We both went through all of the things the other person had sent to us, and pulled out sentences and words that were especially meaningful to us. We then put them on pieces of paper in a basket, and throughout the day before we proposed to each other we read them to each other. It was really special to revisit parts of our own story together.

One of the things that struck me the most about this process was how much we forget overtime. Some of the things that I wrote to Matt sounded so poetic and I kept thinking, “When did I write that??” But alas I did.

Putting together my proposal for Matt was also very special. I went through my 10+ Moleskin notebooks that I had accumulated during our relationship to read what I had written at different points. I pulled out pieces of the story to string together a new story. This new story was about why I wanted to marry Matt.

Going through the process of putting that story together, I realized that the process I went through is the foundation of storytelling. We take moments from the past and string them together to tell a story. Sometime we add in parts in between the moments to make them more fluid – commentary, analysis, perspective, and so on.

Returning to the basics though reminded me that storytelling does not have to be complicated. In fact, it can be a very enjoyable process. I think the trick is being able to easily access those past moments. In my case, that was the result of copious note taking and reflection for 18 months.

As I think about our wedding on Saturday, I am very excited to embark on a new story with Matt. Who know where this one will take us, but I’m happy to be patient as it unfolds.

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About Vanessa Chase Lockshin

My name is Vanessa Chase Lockshin, and I want to empower you to tell your story. In my personal life, finding ways to tell my stories has been a transformational practice. In my fundraising life, I’ve helped hundreds of organizations tell their stories to engage and inspire their donors. To date, my work has helped non-profits raise over $10 million.

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Comments

  1. Janice says

    May 28, 2015 at 6:07 am

    Congratulations!

  2. Suellen says

    May 28, 2015 at 6:10 am

    Congratulations to you and Matt! My husband and I met in a Sunday school class he was the facilitator and I was on vacation, we married less than 6 months later after only physically seeing each other 3 times – lots of snail mail and a few very expensive phone calls – you see this year will be our 38th Anniversary. Write a LONG and HAPPY story together, it only gets sweeter with time 🙂

  3. Jerri says

    May 28, 2015 at 6:11 am

    Congratulations. Hope you have a great day beginning the rest of your life together.

  4. Lindsey says

    May 28, 2015 at 6:11 am

    Thanks for sharing your wonderful story! Best wishes to you and Matt as the journey continues!

  5. Lauren says

    May 28, 2015 at 6:53 am

    Congrats! Keep sharing your story, it’s delightful!

  6. Vicky says

    May 28, 2015 at 7:03 am

    Congratulations to you and Matt! I wish you the best this coming Saturday as you marry your best friend. Good luck and have a wonderful day and a long life together!

  7. Cindy says

    May 28, 2015 at 8:03 am

    All the best to you both as you embark on your new journey together.

  8. Cyndi says

    May 28, 2015 at 8:36 am

    Congratulations! Have a wonderful day and enjoy the journey!

  9. Alaina says

    May 28, 2015 at 9:53 am

    What a wonderful story – thank you for sharing! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

  10. Lorraine says

    May 28, 2015 at 11:30 am

    Thank you for sharing your story, Vanessa. Wishing you and Matt all the joys of marriage and only enough of the not-joys to keep you growing!

  11. Diane B Morrison says

    May 28, 2015 at 11:32 am

    Vanessa, I am so happy for you and Matt and wish you both the very best!!!! My husband and I will be celebrating our 44th anniversary in September. And I can honestly say, it been a good 44 years. So, my joy, blessings, prayers, and love are with you both!

  12. Mazarine says

    May 28, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    Wow, what a beautiful post! congratulations Vanessa! I’m so psyched for your wedding. It’s going to be lovely.

  13. Tom Ahern says

    May 29, 2015 at 5:07 am

    Vanessa…. I was recommending you to someone, got enjoyably wrapped up in your website, then saw you are getting married. Tomorrow!!! Please accept my very, very best on this fabulous occasion. Matt sounds like a great guy. You two will be fascinating together.

  14. Jenn Pushkaric says

    May 30, 2015 at 11:36 pm

    Congratulations and welcome to (Matt’s other side of) the family!

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My name is Vanessa Chase Lockshin and I've helped non-profits raise over $10 million by telling stories that engage and inspire donors. I'm the author of The Storytelling Non-Profit: A practical guide to telling stories that raise money and awareness, and the creator of immersive online training programs that have trained thousands of non-profit professionals. Read More…

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